Go where the guys are. No guy will approach you if you aren’t where he is. We are fed up with hearing the excuse, “there are no available guys.” Fifty-one percent of the population is male. There is no reason you can’t find a way to be around eligible guys. If you aren’t regularly around available men, find them. Stay committed to your church, but go to a midweek service at the church where there are lots of singles. Men eat; they are in grocery stores, restaurants and coffee shops. They go to books stores, gyms, sporting events; the list goes on and on. Get some friends, go to new places and practice the techniques you are about to learn. If you still feel as if you cannot find any good guys, then try an online dating service. There are a few services out there that do a fantastic job evaluating its members and connecting them with others who are a great match. Use these as a tool to meet lots of new people and enjoy new places! Try www.eHarmony.com, which is known as a true match-making service and not just a dating service.
Do not wear rings on your ring fingers. If a man sees a ring on your ring finger he will probably assume you are engaged or married. If he thinks you are in a committed relationship, chances are that Mr. Right will not approach you. Make it a habit to wear rings only on your other nine digits.
Leave the girl pack. Chapter 6 is devoted to this. Read it. Study it. DO IT!!! This will change your life.
Make eye contact. When you make casual eye contact with a guy DO NOT LOOK AWAY! Instead, hold his gaze for several seconds. (Count to two slowly in your mind.) Then offer a sweet smile. This may feel awkward at first but you will get used to it. Guys and girls alike will start to perceive you as more friendly and approachable. You can practice on girls too – you’re not giving “come hither” eyes. You are just being friendly!
The Casual “Hi”. If you make eye contact with a guy you have met before, smile and say, “Hi.” Then move on quickly. Don’t slow down as you say “Hi” and don’t drop the eye contact either. You should make eye contact before and maintain eye contact after the “Hi.” By doing this you have communicated, “I’m friendly and I’m open.”
Be aware of your non-verbal cues.
When you are in a group setting do not stand face to face with a friend. Instead, stand shoulder to shoulder and look around the room as you talk. This says that you are open to other conversations.
Do not stand with your arms crossed. This is the universal sign that says “I am a closed person… Unwilling to be friends or talk! Do not approach.”
Put your phone away! One emergency text is fine, but if you are with other people, don’t be engaged with your phone. If you feel the need to hold something, bring a bottle of water with you.
When you are in a group setting, if you spend more than 5-10 minutes with one guy, other guys will notice and will assume you are together. This is a sure way to get NO dates. Ever! Guys will not approach you if you appear to be with another guy. As Jason B. Illian (www.crosswalk.com/singles/11621171/) puts it, “Most of us want to get a phone number, not a black eye!”
Have fun! Laugh with your friends! Guys notice the most fun girls in the room and fun girls are approachable. They also notice the obnoxious ones; don’t be one of those girls.
Challenge: Make eye contact with everyone this week. When you are speaking with someone hold eye contact the entire time. When you make eye contact with a stranger (either male or female) hold it for two seconds and smile. Make it your goal to be the last person to break eye contact for the entire week. You are learning to be friendly with everyone and this will translate to "approachable" to cute boys! After making eye contact this week please let us know how it goes!!!